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Mar 12

Applause for Kelly Clarkson who is confident enough in her own right to shrug off negative comments about her weight by a British “journalist.”

Clarkson said,  “That’s because she doesn’t know me. I’m awesome! It doesn’t bother me. It’s a free world. Say what you will.”  Clarkson went on to clarify, “I’ve just never cared what people think. It’s more if I’m happy and I’m confident and feeling good, that’s always been my thing. And more so now, since having a family —  I don’t seek out any other acceptance.”

Katie Hopkins, a writer for the British Tabloid, Sun, has been saying negative things about Clarkson’s weight in recent weeks.

Hopkins first took her attacks to Twitter, tweeting negative comments about Clarkson’s weight on Feb. 20, 2015.  Hopkins said, “Jesus, what happened to Kelly Clarkson? Did she eat all of her backing singers? Happily I have wide-screen.” She added, “Darling, if you had a baby a year ago, that is not baby weight. It is fat. Quit calling it cute names to make yourself feel better.”

Good for Clarkson who took the high road and shame on the so-called journalist to judge.  Perhaps she was trying to boost her own profile in the press.  Mean girls never win in the long run, Hopkins.

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Mar 28
Go Kirstie Alley!
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Does it ever end?

So, George Lopez insulted Kirstie Alley in a series of tasteless fat jokes this past week on his talk show.

Now, I know George was not the only one..Conan, David, Jay….

The first thing I said was, “See?? See? I would never get in front of all of those people and dance! SEE what happens!” But, I calmed down..took a breath and thought to myself, “Well, then it would be my problem and I would not want to make it my problem…”

I was so excited to see Kirstie do so well and am even more impressed that she is 61!  She looks great!!

How about we start thinking AHEAD of time before we speak, George.
Save the flowers and the ( Twitter) apology..think…what if that was your wife, daughter, sister, mother..think.

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Dec 7

Every now and then I read a book and I cannot put it down.  It hit close to home.  Way too close.  This was the case with Dara Chadwick’s, You’d Be So Pretty If…Teaching Our Daughters To Love Their Bodies Even When We Don’t Love Our Own.”

I grew up with a mother who had a mastectomy at the age of 32.  I was 3.5 years old and remember waving to her at her hospital bed from outside the hospital.  She never talked about her own body and never discussed her mastectomy with me–Never.

However, my mother’s message to me about appearance, weight and being thin was always loud and clear. It’s not enough.  You are not enough.  Try harder. Diet. Starve if you have to. Boys won’t like you unless you are thin.  Some of our worst, most painful mother-daughter moments was hearing her say, “You do not need to eat one more thing. Do not put that in your mouth.” It was said in a loud, stern voice across a crowded room as I was putting something, cannot remember what, in my mouth.  I was mortified.

When I had gained a few pounds (ok,20 pounds) between my Junior and Senior year in college and saw my parents for the first time that summer, she said, with my fiancee, (now my husband) right there, “What did you do to yourself.  You blew up.”  Again, I was mortified.  The whole ride on the way back home was all about how we were going to change my image and be a new me in the Fall of my Senior year.

And, while she was on her death bed, one of the last sentences she said to me before she went into a coma was, “You’ve gained weight and you are getting bigger.”  Great.

What a waste of energy and precious time.  I want to believe her intentions were good.  Her method was just so very awfully, horribly, wrong.  I never had children.  (For many reasons) But, the child back then and the adult now wishes we could do those scenarios all over.

I was never petite, tiny, or thin no matter how much I dieted.  What I was/am—I was/am strong, assured, and self-confident.  I take pride in my appearance and do my best to look good and feel good.  I am not always at 100% but that is the goal–to strive for 100% in everything I do.  I go after what I want and get it.  I owe most of that drive and determination to her. But those comments, her comments, remain in the air like stale smoke, still here after all these years.

So, when I read Dara’s book, I immediately got in touch with her.  Here was a mother who did not want to repeat the cycle. Maybe I could gain more insight into the mother that is no longer here to ask. (She died when I was 22, never saw me get married, was never there for the triumphs and sadly, what I remember the most about her are those judgmental comments).

Dara says,

“As mothers, how we feel about and relate to our own bodies–and the conscious or unconscious expression of that relationship—creates a “body image blueprint” for our daughters.  Our girls may grow up to look different from the way we look, but the foundation for how they relate to their bodies as adults is one that we help build, brick by brick, through our own behavior toward our own bodies and toward theirs…  Body image matters not because we all need to look like gorgeous supermodels to be happy.  It matters because if we don’t feel good about what we look like and the body we live in, we’re less inclined to show the world who we are.”

There ya’ go!

We can break a cycle.  Wednesday, December 9, 2009 at 3:00 pm EST on Black Cat Plus Radio.  We begin.

More as it happens.   Jodell

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Oct 16

Here we go again!

Ralph Lauren came under fire for a re-touch of their advertisement of 23-year-old Filippa Hamilton.  Hamilton is 5’10″ and weighs 120 pounds.   In a statement, they admitted, “poor imaging and retouching errors” and said that they had addressed the problem.

Today

They addressed the problem all right. They fired Hamilton.

Ralph Lauren let Hamilton go after six years with the company “as a result of her inability to meet the obligations under her contract with us.”

What does that mean?

Wait, there’s more.

Hamilton told NBC Today Show Host, Anne Curry that she was let go because she’d become too fat to model for the company.  Hamilton said that Lauren wrote a letter to her agent saying, “We’re terminating your services because you don’t fit into the sample clothes that you need to wear.”  Read Lauren’s full statement here.

So, what’s the deal?

Kate White, the editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan magazine who was also interviewed on the Today show with Hamilton said,

“I think women have to protest, and back it up, because sometimes women say they want real girls in stories, but often those stories don’t rate as well, and if you put a heavy celebrity on the cover, it may not sell as well,” White said. “Women have to complain and then back it up with their actions — with their pocketbooks.”

Let’s keep telling the fashion industry because they are not getting it!

It’s time.  For ourselves and for our daughters.  It’s time.

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Jul 21
Drop Dead Diva? Hit or Miss?
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Plus size woman is a fabulous, professional, sexy, successful attorney. She can get anyone she wants and knows that her destiny is in her own hands. She recognizes that she is fabulous and goes about having all the things that— Wait. That’s not the plot.
Ugh. I reaaaally wanted to like this show. I really did. I have held off reviewing it because other’s reviews have been favorable and it looks as though Lifetime has hit the jackpot with the record setting ratings for this show. The Executive Producers have resumes that read like a Who’s Who in American Television. I keep going back to this show. And I keep thinking, “Well, maybe you are not getting it. Watch it again.” It is getting to the point where one of the characters can say one line and I say the next I have watched it so many times. And I am still not enthralled.

The other night before bed, I was watching Diva and tsk tsking and rolling my eyes. My husband was like, “Now what?” I said, “I just can’t put my finger on it and I wish I could. But I just can’t.” While on one hand, I am happy that Lifetime picked up the show (Fox was supposed to pick it up), on the other hand, I just so wish that they had:
#1: Altered the plot premise. Why? Just once can we see a plus size woman who has it all and knows what to do with it! Maybe that is why I am not in a happy mood about this show? When is that going to happen—when we see the person and not the size?
#2: Female executive producers, preferably a few of size, would be a good idea. Imagine that interview? If there are women Exec. Producers where are they?

I must admit that it is good that the show addresses prejudice and preconceived notions on weight and appearance. Maybe two or ten or twenty years from now we’ll look back at this show and say, “Yup, that started the discussion.”

The debut of Drop Dead Diva introduced the story of a fashion model with an at-ti-tude, The model, Deb, played by Brooke D’Orsay, has a fatal car accident and finds herself in front of the gatekeeper to Heaven, played by Ben Feldman. The gatekeeper believes that she is a self centered size 00 individual, who has never done anything bad or good. So as part of her journey to her real self, Deb is returned to life, but in a different body. Much to Deb’s chagrin, she finds herself in the body of a size 16 lawyer, Jane Bingum, played by Brooke Elliott.

And, thus, Deb takes over the body of Jane, a donut and chocolate loving, brilliant, shy, frumpy lawyer. And, we see glimpses of the two personalities as they converge into one personality with the best traits of each.

Since we have the plot that we have, what I am hoping for is that we can see some kind of true progression with Jane, played by actress Brooke Elliott. (If anything, I think Brooke will be a breakout star!) What I am hoping for is that the writers and producers avoid the obvious and dig deeper as we see a transformation in Jane’s character. And as she transforms, we all proceed in kind. And, we can all benefit.

More as it happens. Jodell

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